You start off sounding a bit defensive, that Americans are not giving the Dutch props for standing with us in Afghanistan, but then later in your post you seem to be defensive about the fact that most Dutch are against being in Afghanistan. 

My only problem has been, and not with Holland per se, but with NATO countries in general, that out of a region with almost as many people as the US, you can only  find a small percentage of troops to fight with your ally that has been attacked– and many of the countries are offering up these meager amounts of troops reluctantly and belligerently, many won’t leave their camps, so are almost useless while there, or they will restrict themselves to only rebuilding, which I think is another way of saying they are morally above us fighters.

I have a lot to say about the NATO "alliance" in general, but will save it for another post.  I don’t want to do anything to take away from honoring your fallen warrior.