Outside Looking In
Poligazette is priveledged to give you an EXCLUSIVE interview with an ex-member of the Fundamentalist Church of Latter Day Saints (FLDS).
Les Zitting is a survivor. For decades he has lived with the memories and worked through
the difficulties of someone brought up in the heart of a sect. He is the 6th son of a woman who was herself the 9th wife of one of the leaders of the FLDS in the 50s, Charles Zitting. His father died when Les was only four years old. His mother remarried, and Les has a total of 16 siblings and half-siblings, including an eldest brother who is still prominent within the FLDS and a sister married into the also prominent Jessop family and sisters and nieces married to Warren Jeffs.
He has graciously allowed himself to be interviewed about what life is like within the FLDS and his views on the situation currently underway in
Q. News reports say that abuse was commonplace within the sect, and that girls were forced to marry upon reaching puberty. Based on your personal experience and knowledge of the group, would you say this is an accurate portrayal or is it more sensationalist? Were girls being “married” before the age of 16 commonplace or the exception?
A. I would have to answer TRUE and some even much earlier than age 12.
Q. Is there any awareness inside the group that sexual relations between a very young teen and a man decades her senior is inappropriate? Do you know if girls feel it’s wrong in any way or do they simply accept it as “gods will”?
A. How can a boy or girl even question who does what, when the only thing you have ever understood is — we are the “Elite people of God” and our Leaders are in His “Perfect Will”. You do not even question!!
Q. As a boy growing up in the group, how different was your rearing to the girls? Are boys given special treatment in any way, do girls have to be obedient to boys or only to their “husbands”? If you reached adulthood within the group, did you as a man have any choice in who you could be with or was this entirely up to sect leaders? Is there anything akin to dating or physical relationships at all? Did you marry?
A. Girls were pretty much kept to the home and the duties of the Home, cleaning, cooking, taking care of babies, etc., etc. I was 20 when I left this Church. Several girls had their eyes on me and I knew it, but I was torn…… because I didn’t want to marry if I wasn’t going to stay … I wasn’t sure but I had to know first. I left in 1970 an unmarried man.
Les Zitting
A person choosing who they marry does happen but it is not the norm. Dating is out-of-line and does not happen “normally”. A person is assigned and in most cases married within days and sometimes even within hours. If a physical relationship happens it is against authority and not normal.
Q. What opinion do you have of the actions of the Texas CPS? Do you think that many children will cooperate to identify abusers or is the control over them to throrough?
A. Thank you
Q. The women who accompanied the children, presumably it’s to care for them, but is it also to ensure that they don’t speak or to make sure they don’t end up trusting outsiders?
I got heavily involved with issues of these Churches back in 2000. In 2001 I help rescue Caroline who was about to be married to Warren and she wanted out. We succeeded with this — This was my first experience with Jay Beswick (editors note: Jay was who put me into contact with Les, thank you as well)– Thank You Jay, you are a jewel !! We tried at that time, to get
As for the women; See the Polygamist women as they speak – these are their children but few tears if any. They have been taught since birth to show “no emotion”. How much deep, deep emotion do you see on them as they speak to the camera !!! NONE. Emotion is a bad thing – the Men don’t like it, so they have taught them to hold it back and they are good at it.
Q. Assuming children were maintained away from the cult from now on, what do they really need in order to adjust to the outside world?
A. The age of the child is the key factor here. Just hang in there with these kids – it will take time. I don’t know what ages we are talking. Any Children 4 and under will be OK for the most part, but above 4 there will be issues.
Q. How did you end up leaving the group? Do you still have any contact with your family within the FLDS?
A. When a person leaves the Church, they immediately are shunned by all. I lost my Family and all friends. I became “EVIL” as the rest of the planets population. I was now on “Satan’s” side. This was very tough for me. My actual exit happened when the Town Sheriff at that time (Sam Barlow) picked up myself and my younger Brother Paul and drove us from
Q. Any extra thoughts?
A. I have tried NOT to watch the news casts as these Polygamist women spoke. I knew there were LIES being spoken!!! As I watched, I asked myself, “How can you people, who claim integrity, honesty, and truth look into those cameras and tell the entire world that you don’t know of any under-aged marriages between girls under 16 to men 2 ,3 and even 4 times their age”. People need to and probably will go to prison for this.
(Jason’s skeptical and cautionary response to this post can be found here.)










Fantastic interview- thank you, Claudia, and Jay Beswick, and especially Mr. Zitting.
I have a few questions for Mr. Zitting, if its possible for him to answer.
One, you mention that emotion is surpressed among the cult. That’s an interesting aside that I hadn’t realized; I’m curious about affection in general- are the mothers generally affectionate with infants and small children, for example? If not, then do you feel this is psychologically harmful (is the blunted emotion so extreme that the kids are likely to be harmed even before the sexual abuse starts, for example?) Or if the mothers are affectionate with the very young children, does that stop at some point (I’m wondering if that has to do with your comment about kids before age of four being mostly OK- or is that comment more your opinion about the general developmental stage at which kids are more subject to harm by this kind of cult?)
Second, I’m always curious about how men can surpress the natural protective or nurturing instinct so strongly in order to satisfy deranged sexual impulses. It seems to me that normally men don’t feel attraction toward young girls because humans are mostly hard wired to feel protective toward children- yet these men seem to lack that instinct (and I feel that’s true in all cases of pedophilia, not just a cult like this.) Do you agree that this is lacking, or is there some sort of strange rationalization that the men are brainwashed to believe that sex with young girls isn’t harmful to them, or is it some combination of both?
And third question relates to law enforcement. To what degree are the legal authorities complicit, in your opinion? Is it that some of the towns (you mentioned Colorado City for example) have law enforcement agencies that are infiltrated with FDLS members? Or that authorities in many cases feel some sort of pressure to look the other way, due to the influence of some of the cult’s leaders? Do political figures seem to be cowed by them as well in AZ and Utah? To what degree do you think that authorities and elected officials willfully turn a blind eye, vs. being unable to prosecute because of insufficient hard evidence (for example, if few girls are courageous enough to escape or seek help, and few or none of the adult women are willing to testify, then it’s a lot like rape crimes in general where the victim is too afraid or ashamed to provide evidence against her attacker, and the law enforcement authorities often then have their hands tied since they can’t convict without that testimony or evidence.
Thanks in advance if you are willing and able to respond to these questions.
After over a decade of involvement with religious freedom issues, I state confidently that unfortunately, ex-members are often the least reliable reporters and interpreters about the beliefs and practices of a religion. This is a problem for two reasons.
First, ex-members often have an axe to grind against their former religion. Often, this is the reason they left in the first place. Other times, bias is a result of after-the-fact desires to justify and explain their decision to leave. Either way, they will tend to exaggerate negative recollections and refuse to accurately report more positive aspects.
Second, ex-members are prone to recruitment by those who hate the religion in question for other reasons. Because they have lost a community by leaving one religion (particularly an insular one like the FLDS), they are vulnerable to promises of community by another group for whom their prior membership is strategically useful. For example, those who leave the mainstream Mormon church often find themselves targeted for recruitment by the many anti-Mormon groups that rely on a supply of "ex-Mormons" to give the veneer of credibility to their longstanding distortions about Mormon beliefs.
Does this mean that Les Zettig is lying? Of course not. It merely means that the testimony of ex-members like Zettig should never be taken as the final and authoritative description of a religious group like the FLDS, especially when they are accompanied by the kind of overt emotionalism and sweeping assertions that are included in the above interview. To accept them as accurate without any need for further investigation (as demanded by the state of Texas in their unprecedented actions and court pleadings) would lead inevitably down the road of the loss of all meaningful religious freedom, as minority religious practices are particularly vulnerable to exaggerations, distortions, and selective reporting. Any religion that departs from the norm would be vulnerable to exaggerations and distortions of ex-members and the application of sweeping communal guilt (e.g. making all members of the group guilty for the crimes of some of them).
Do any of you think that your religious group could stand up to such a standard? Are all Catholics guilty of the sexual abuse of children, Christine? Should Catholic children be seized by the state to prevent them from attending communion because some Catholic priests have abused children? Let’s get a grip on ourselves before suspicion congeals into bigotry and strips away normal standards of caution that inhibit us from taking children away from their parents without INDIVIDUAL evidence of abuse.
Consider that what we are talking about here is taking away the parental rights of 400+ parents based solely on the uncorroborated allegation of a telephone caller who cannot be found in person and an assumption of group guilt based on rumors and innuendos.
Even if it is found that there were some incidents of child abuse, should that result in the loss of the children for ALL members of the ENTIRE FLDS community? Should we also have the state seize the children of all Muslims because some Muslims have forced their daughters into sick "marriages"?
I think this entire conversation lacks a sense of perspective and a sufficient concern for the dangers of acting based solely on partial evidence and bald stereotypes.
<blockquote>Do any of you think that your religious group could stand up to such a standard? Are all Catholics guilty of the sexual abuse of children, Christine? Should Catholic children be seized by the state to prevent them from attending communion because some Catholic priests have abused children? </blockquote>
Of course not, Jason, and that’s one reason I brought up the topic of the need of evidence. I guess I can see where I was leaning more toward presumption of guilt (but without meeting the threshold of evidence to prosecute) rather than presuming innocence, and I do appreciate the perspective you are bringing here. At the same time, it does appear to me that there’s bit more evidence of behavior that endangers kids than you are willing to admit. And as far as any religious group living up to this standard, when there’s a cloistering of the participants I think it’s necessarily going to lead to suspicion- and I don’t think the FDLS members even deny polygamy, which is against the law- so there certainly are some differences right off the bat from most mainstream religions.
I explicitly concede in my comment and my post that this group is spooky and there is more than enough evidence to warrant an investigation. Unfortunately, the state of Texas and people like Mr. Zettig don’t want us to wait for investigations nor do they want us to focus on individuals. They want to just tar the entire religious group with a sweeping brush and they don’t want us to shy away from even the most extreme sanction — the unprecedented step of stripping an entire religion of their parental rights based solely on their membership in that religion.
That kind of standard is scary.
And look how Zettig tells us to presumptively and automatically dismiss all of the first-hand testimony of all FLDS members as "LIES!!!". Such claims that all defenses and contrary evidence should be automatically dismissed highlights the kind of danger we face when we short-circuit individualized investigation with presumptions of group guilt based on stereotypes and biased information.
Yes, polygamy in the legal sense (marrying more than one spouse with sanction of the state) is illegal. But it is not illegal to have more than one sexual partner and if they do not attempt to register more than one spouse with the state, where is the state’s legitimate interest in restricting the practice? I don’t understand how someone can endorse the ban on polyamorous relationships without sweeping up a whole lot of other practices, and it seems blatantly unjust to target polygamists for government enforcement while exempting swingers doing exactly the same thing under a non-religious framework. The FLDS should be targeted but Bill Clinton gets 67% approval rating as president? Bizarre.
OK, I see that now- on the other hand, Mr. Zettig is in fact in the position to know if some of those things being said by the FLDS members are lies or not- so for him personally, he doesn’t have to wait for the investigation. Now, whether his testimony should carry weight is a point which could be debated, but if for example he knows for a fact that very young girls are being sexually abused through arranged marriages, then he isn’t necessarily commenting on specific cases when he says that the women being interviewed are lying. He’s speaking about a general observation which he knows to be false, by his own eyewitness.
Crock. He left the FLDS in 1970. He has no direct knowledge of what is currently going on in every single one of the 400+ individual lives affected in this case.
Investigation is warranted (and it is warranted entirely without Zettig’s claim of 40-year-old information), but it should be targeted on the behavior and situations of INDIVIDUALS, not sweeping characterizations of entire groups.
Warren Jeffs Confession part 1 http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=9fePt8-VndY Part 2 http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=MQoknKRBqhw Part 3 http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=u4t1EpxEsvg Warren Jeffs Explaining POLYGAMY http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=fbudqrmFSDs Warren Jeffs #2 Cont. on Polygamy http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=RkXA2JxGrJw Warren Jeffs #3 Continued on Polygamy http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=JWzXCdehMI4
The ex-members may be telling inaccurate stories not because they are lying, but because after leaving FLDS they became involved with "survivor" groups that use recovered memory practices as a way of "healing" trauma. "Tapestry Against Polygamy" is a group that is closely affiliated with therapists who use recovered memory techniques. Unfortunately, recovered memory therapy is still very prominent in the trauma treatment industry, and teaches its clients to "uncover" buried abuse memories that are highly unlikely to be true. Preliminary evidence coming from the raid (e.g., underage pregnancies; possible injuries) suggests that there probably was real abuse going on at FLDS. However, I am highly skeptical of the most horrendous accounts being given by ex-cult members. These memories closely resemble other recovered memory narratives. The US media was very interested in the recovered memory problem in the mid-90’s when the satanic ritual abuse hysteria was largely debunked, but they have not paid attention to the way these practices continue to flourish today. Most Americans would be horrified if they knew to what extent recovered memory charlatans still hold the reins of mental health treatment for trauma in this country. The most important and reliable evidence about abuse in this group will come directly from the statements of children taken from the compound and physical evidence seized during the raid. Recollections from ex-members associated with recovered memory groups must be taken with extreme caution and skepticism. Anyone else who claims to "know" at this point what went on in the compound is merely guessing. Let’s let the investigation take its course.